That's a good point about bodily autonomy. Inside my body = my choice. Once the baby is born, its own bodily autonomy comes into play.

I hear you about the sweet grandmothers not agreeing to disagree. That's a hard one. My gut reaction is, "They need to learn some boundaries!" but that's unlikely to help in practice.

Maybe these particular grandmothers would never have done this, but I'm also thinking of the people who picket at a clinic, show up for an abortion when they need one, and go right back to picketing. Somehow their high moral stance gets put aside when it comes to the reality of their own life.