A new family member--premiering in July
Dec. 30th, 2011 01:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dancingsingingIt feels like time to let the word out--I'm gestating a baby! Baby's due date is July 1.
Most of you probably know about the fertility problems we've had--it took some migraine-inducing drugs and three pregnancies to have my daughter. This time, it took high doses of more intense (and more expensive) drugs. And it still took three cycles, but no miscarriages.
Now that I'm posting this, I'll probably go back and unlock my earlier posts about being terrified of miscarrying. I'm not sure I really got all my feelings down in those posts, but it's what I have. And I think it's important to share the whole experience. In our culture, the dominant baby narrative is: you get a positive pregnancy test, you barf a bit, you twirl around in a happy pastel haze, and then Baby! Really, it's like no one knows that the miscarriage rate in the general population (healthy people with no reason to expect to miscarry) is 20%. It would have helped me a lot that first time to know.
I've been really, really sick and exhausted. More so than the first time. The whole pregnancy thing has been a lot less fun than last time, because the rest of my life didn't magically stop being a concern.
But! I'm really, really happy. I was getting close to being pretty sure I wouldn't have another kid, and I wanted one. Even knowing ahead of time about the work and all, I'm getting a little bit into a dreamy pastel haze. And it's nice.
Most of you probably know about the fertility problems we've had--it took some migraine-inducing drugs and three pregnancies to have my daughter. This time, it took high doses of more intense (and more expensive) drugs. And it still took three cycles, but no miscarriages.
Now that I'm posting this, I'll probably go back and unlock my earlier posts about being terrified of miscarrying. I'm not sure I really got all my feelings down in those posts, but it's what I have. And I think it's important to share the whole experience. In our culture, the dominant baby narrative is: you get a positive pregnancy test, you barf a bit, you twirl around in a happy pastel haze, and then Baby! Really, it's like no one knows that the miscarriage rate in the general population (healthy people with no reason to expect to miscarry) is 20%. It would have helped me a lot that first time to know.
I've been really, really sick and exhausted. More so than the first time. The whole pregnancy thing has been a lot less fun than last time, because the rest of my life didn't magically stop being a concern.
But! I'm really, really happy. I was getting close to being pretty sure I wouldn't have another kid, and I wanted one. Even knowing ahead of time about the work and all, I'm getting a little bit into a dreamy pastel haze. And it's nice.
