A fun visit with Dad
Apr. 29th, 2012 08:11 pmMy dad came up to visit for the weekend, and it was so fun. Oftentimes, I find hanging out with my dad alternately *very* stressful and *very* fun. Mostly because if his traumatic childhood shit gets triggered, her acts like a major asshole (the stressful part) and because he's one of the most funloving, spontaneous, and empathetic/compassionate people I know (the fun part). But this time, he only got slightly-semi-triggered one time, and I just said, "I'll talk to you when you're not frustrated" and he was like "Okay." And then he was done being triggered and we went on having fun. I swear, that dude does so much work with his therapy and his Buddhist practice. Like, he's radically less of a pain in the ass than even six months ago, never mind ten years ago. Also, it probably helps that he's been spending a lot of time thinking about how he can help me and not stress me out because my pregnancy has been so hard and I've been so tired.
On Friday while my kiddo was in school, I played hooky from all the responsible stuff I usually try to do during that time and we rode bicycles around the artsy party of town (yes! Reno has an artsy part. Really!) It was a very slow, very short ride compared with what we normally would have done, but it was a lot for me. (Usually I can't walk more than two or three blocks without bringing on contractions.) It felt really wonderful, both physically and emotionally. This might sound rather sad, but it was the most fun I've had in a month or two (since I went down to SF and visited![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
wild_irises and went to the Exploratorium with metaphortunate --I can't remember exactly how long ago that was). Then later, we picked up the kiddo and my dad & kid rode bikes more while I followed in a car. We hung out at the cafe and went to the park and bought ice creams from the ice cream truck. All entirely fun. Then my dad took us out to dinner so I didn't have to cook or clean up. It would have been super awesome because we went to one of my favorite restaurants that I don't go to a lot because it's pricey, except kiddo got a sudden high fever.
Then on Saturday I slept until 1:30 in the afternoon while my dad and spouse played with the kiddo. Very nice! My dad and I tried to ride bikes again to the Starbucks that's maybe a mile from my house, but I couldn't make it so we rode half way and then finished getting there by alternately walking half a block and resting. Then we got to hang out and talk and drink coffee for a few hours, which is like one of my very favorite things to do. I think we talked mostly about social justice (which he doesn't entirely get, but he's interested in because it's important to me and because he's interested in me) and about my angst over not making money and getting the social recognition I would if I did.
And then today, we hung around with kiddo in the morning doing craft projecty things and then he took me shopping because he wanted to buy me cute maternity clothes. (He sees it as a thing to enjoy because it's like the last chance to do it.) Then he found these really cute tops in the one maternity store around here that I never would have noticed and bought them for me. Also a swimsuit, so I can go swimming, which my doctor says will probably help my fatigue.
Anyway, yay for having a really fun weekend! It's been a while. :)
On Friday while my kiddo was in school, I played hooky from all the responsible stuff I usually try to do during that time and we rode bicycles around the artsy party of town (yes! Reno has an artsy part. Really!) It was a very slow, very short ride compared with what we normally would have done, but it was a lot for me. (Usually I can't walk more than two or three blocks without bringing on contractions.) It felt really wonderful, both physically and emotionally. This might sound rather sad, but it was the most fun I've had in a month or two (since I went down to SF and visited
wild_irises and went to the Exploratorium with metaphortunate --I can't remember exactly how long ago that was). Then later, we picked up the kiddo and my dad & kid rode bikes more while I followed in a car. We hung out at the cafe and went to the park and bought ice creams from the ice cream truck. All entirely fun. Then my dad took us out to dinner so I didn't have to cook or clean up. It would have been super awesome because we went to one of my favorite restaurants that I don't go to a lot because it's pricey, except kiddo got a sudden high fever.Then on Saturday I slept until 1:30 in the afternoon while my dad and spouse played with the kiddo. Very nice! My dad and I tried to ride bikes again to the Starbucks that's maybe a mile from my house, but I couldn't make it so we rode half way and then finished getting there by alternately walking half a block and resting. Then we got to hang out and talk and drink coffee for a few hours, which is like one of my very favorite things to do. I think we talked mostly about social justice (which he doesn't entirely get, but he's interested in because it's important to me and because he's interested in me) and about my angst over not making money and getting the social recognition I would if I did.
And then today, we hung around with kiddo in the morning doing craft projecty things and then he took me shopping because he wanted to buy me cute maternity clothes. (He sees it as a thing to enjoy because it's like the last chance to do it.) Then he found these really cute tops in the one maternity store around here that I never would have noticed and bought them for me. Also a swimsuit, so I can go swimming, which my doctor says will probably help my fatigue.
Anyway, yay for having a really fun weekend! It's been a while. :)
